 |
|
|
|||||
Im someone who does a lot: Ive held multiple tech executive roles, founded and sold a startup, published an award-winning book, served on nonprofit boards, advised and invested in emerging companies, and kept a thriving creative life. Im also raising two kids with my husband. So its not surprising that Im often asked which productivity books I recommend. People are often surprised by my response: I dont read productivity books. Never havenever really wanted to. Why productivity books are BS I realized something recently, after going down a rabbit hole about productivity books from a heavily debated Threads post: the vast majority of best-selling productivity books are written by men91% of the top 100 titles, in fact. And most of these authors have mentioned having a wife at home, an arrangement that often implies shes handling much of the childcare and household management. That reality doesnt match my own. Like so many working women, I carry a substantial portion of the second shift at home: cooking, homework help, bedtime routines, and general emotional support. Research from the Gender Equity Policy Institute backs this up, showing that working women in the U.S. spend twice as many hours on childcare and housework as working men do. The big chunk of uninterrupted time that these authors count onwhether its a 5 a.m. stretch of sacred hours or a mini-sabbatical to reboot creativityjust doesnt exist in my life. If I tried to follow their advice, Id be setting myself up for failure or burnout. Here are just a few staples of popular productivity books that dont mesh with my life as a working mother: Early-Morning Routines: Waking at dawn isnt viable if youre up at night with a restless kid or catching up on work after bedtime. Even if I do manage to rise before the sun, I often have immediate caregiving tasks. Long, Uninterrupted Blocks of Deep Work: A meeting-heavy work schedule coupled with planned obligations, unplanned crises, and countless mom, can you help me? moments mean interruptions are part of my normal. Outsourcing Everything: Emotional laborlike scheduling playdates and tracking immunizationsdoesnt vanish just because you hire a virtual assistant. Plus, not everyone can afford or justify it. Rigid Scheduling or Time Blocking: Kids dont operate on neat timetables (and, really, work doesnt either). Its tough to block off an hour for anything when a single text from school can upend your day. Cutting Obligations. For mothers, certain obligations arent optional (e.g., kids doctor appointments, parent-teacher conferences, emotional support). How I stay productive (and happy) I didnt learn these tactics from a book, but Ive discovered my own methods that workwith motherhood, work demands, and a rich personal life. 1. Appropriate MultitaskingYes, multitasking often gets a bad rep, but Ive found a sweet spot when combining tasks that use different parts of my brain. Years ago, my then-5-year-old refused to sleep unless I sat in the corner of his room. While I waited for him to drift off, I wrote huge sections of my book on my phone. I also created an entire art series using Post-it notes and Sharpies during meetings where I only needed to listen, not present. I listen to audiobooks and podcasts while commuting or walking the dog. For me, its about being respectful to the momentif Im in a collaborative meeting or spending quality time with someone, I focus. But when theres an open lane to combine activities without shortchanging anyone, I take it. 2. Energizing ActivitiesThe biggest productivity hack, in my experience, is to fill my life with meaningful work and relationships. I dont have to muster the willpower to juggle my projects if they invigorate me. If I start feeling drained or resentful, thats a sign I need to rethink how Im spending my time. Surrounding myself with people, initiatives, and side projects that fill my cup ensures I have more energy for everything. 3. Rethinking productivityMaybe the most crucial shift is defining productivity on my own terms. I view time with my family and friends as productiveIm investing in relationships that matter. Creative hobbieslike aerial arts or art projectsare also productive, because they nourish my mental health. And rest is productive, because it replenishes the energy I need to show up fully in work and life. By refusing to measure myself strictly in terms of checked-off tasks or hours of deep work, Im able to free myself from the rigid structures that productivity books champion. Instead, I aim for a life thats fulfilling, balanced, and aligned with my prioritiesfamily, creativity, growth, and community. Im not knocking productivity gurus entirely; some people find motivation and clarity in those pages. But as a busy woman who shoulders domestic responsibilities alongside a big career and personal passions, I quickly realized their methods didnt reflect my world. If youre feeling squeezed by responsibilities and the standard advice rings hollow, dont assume youre doing it wrong. You might just need an approach shaped byand forthe realities of working moms. Remember: Your productivity isn’t measured by how well you follow someone else’s formulait’s measured by how effectively you create a life that works for you. The best lessons about getting things done don’t come from books written by those with different realities; they come from crafting your own path that honors all parts of who you are and what matters to you.
Category:
E-Commerce
Ive never been a big fan of winter. These postholiday months have always seemed like a seasonal waiting room, a dark stretch of time to be endured until nature ushers me into spring. But not this year. Ive come to understand that if I want January and February to be good to me, I need to be good to them. Recasting my typical winter state of mind to establish a new seasonal holiday, I blended the words boredom and doldrums into a different expression for a different experience: Doordom. Treating this new holiday as I do my traditional favorites means discovering seasonally relevant ways to decorate and celebrate. The garland greens and colored lights of December have given way to streams of silver foil swags, aglow with white lights, lanterns with forest motifs, and flickering flame birch log candles, all on battery timers so my loft remains twinkly despite the darkness outside my city windows. My winter programming My TV queue is filled with cozy British mysteriesthe episodic equivalent of having a fireplaceand Nordic Noir. If you are going to sink into winter, here is your inspiration. Tuning into the YouTube channel Street Style Stockholm, I drink coffee and watch people wearing well-designed winter coats and bold accessories walk along a posh shopping avenue. Where I once interpreted the Swedish proverb, There is no such thing as bad weather; there is only bad clothing, to mean choosing seasonal pieces that prepare us for the outdoors, I now believe it isnt just about temperature. It is also about the way our winter clothing makes us feel. Although my wardrobe core might still be in the dark shades (what I call the urban bruise palette), I did buy new colorful outerwear to present a more cheerful self to the world. It’s working! Much of my other seasonal behavior is highly ritualized: It isnt summer until I make Frogmore Stew, the Low Country shrimp boil used to mark my friend Rolands birthday. Fall starts the day I reawaken my cast iron Dutch ovens and get to braising again. and it cant possibly be Christmas without my annual box of tamales sent by a generous Texan. To observe Doordom in this same small but meaningful way, I am tinkering with recipes to find that one perfect seasonal defining meal: Right now, it looks like Moroccan tagine is the dish du jour. Dry January? No thanks I know there are folks who also ritualize this time of the year for other purposes, like cleansing toxins or dry January. I understand the impulse, but seasonal challenges are not for me. Sustaining wintery mental health means putting fewer demands on myself: I dont want to make this time of the year any harder than nature already does. Instead, my Doordom holiday honors little everyday luxuries: I like to join neighbors in our local pub and lick whipped cream off an Irish coffee while we watch the snow come down and spend cold afternoons at my favorite trattoria with a bowl of Bolognese and a good book. Decluttering is another popular mainstream winter ritual, and I am using that same seasonal practice to clean up the mess in my mind. After writing down all my random concerns and distractionssome personal, many politicalI put the paper in a ziplock bag and place it in my refrigerators freezer compartment. I will thaw my worries out later, keep whats still fresh and discard whats expired. In the meantime, with enough mental white space to make room for ideas, I am still experimenting with other comforting practices to mark my new holiday season, learning what I want to look forward to next winter. So, welcome to Doordom, my way of celebrating the bleakestyet potentially the besttime of the year.
Category:
E-Commerce
Branded is a weekly column devoted to the intersection of marketing, business, design, and culture. TikTok is fighting for its life in the U.S. over concerns about its parent companys relationship to the government of China. But TikTok has also just enjoyed one of the best branding weeks ever, as its potential demise has been treated as a national emergency. That sounds like hyperbole, but as youve no doubt heard, the president of the United States has literally intervened to pluck the popular video platform from its deathbedfor now, at least. Protecting this vital component of the internets attention-suck and dubious-trend infrastructure might not seem like a top government, or even societal, priority. But in the days leading up to a possible TikTok ban, Americans dependence on this virality machine went massively viral. Content creators and influencers said goodbye and posted teary videos. Fans shared serious and jokey goodbyes of their own. Brands and ad agencies lamented the loss; as one marketer moaned, Theres no substitute. The platforms wide-ranging cultural impacts were enumerated in the past tense. The New York Times asserted that TikTok had changed the way we cook, and publishers warned of an impending vacuum for bookselling. The frantic search for a replacement made an unlikely hit of a Mandarin-language app called RedNote. Rivals YouTube and Instagram angled to capitalize on the platforms demise. Even Kevin OLearythe Shark Tank guymanaged to drum up attention for claiming he might buy TikTok. Concerns about espionage were waved away with sarcastic Goodbye to my Chinese spy memes. More than a collective obituary, the outpouring amounted to an endless series of advance eulogies in honor of an entity that we, apparently, could never truly replace. It was, in short, a PR bonanza for TikTok. This has been quite a turnabout. While clearly popular, with 170 million users, TikTok owner ByteDance has long been painted by detractors as a potential tool of the Chinese government, for collecting data on or even influencing its audience. During his first term as president, Donald Trump called for banning TikTok unless it found a U.S. buyer. The Biden administration later voiced similar concerns, and backed the Protecting Americans from Foreign Adversary Controlled Applications Act, passed by Congress with wide bipartisan support. The upshot was that ByteDance had to find a buyer by January 19, or it would become illegal for key service providers including Apple, Google, and Oracle to distribute or support the app, effectively killing it in the U.S. The platform fought this all the way to the Supreme Court, which unanimously upheld the act, seeming to seal TikToks fate. But as the pro-TikTok outcry swelled, the political appetite for actually shutting it down seemed to wobble, and the company took full advantage. Two days before the shutdown deadline, it blamed the Biden White House for failing to offer clarity and assurance to TikTok service providers to buy more time to find a solution, declaring that unfortunately TikTok will be forced to go dark. White House press secretary Karine Jean-Pierre called this a stunt, insisting there was no reason for action before the second Trump administration took office: TikTok and other companies should take up any concerns with them. That night, TikTok video feeds stopped working, replaced with a pop-up message blaming a law banning the app but adding: President Trump has indicated that he will work with us on a solution to reinstate TikTok. And indeed the next morning, Trumpwho, let’s not forget, had set the whole TikTok ban idea in motion in 2020promised to stall the new laws enforcement to work out a deal. The platform was operating again within hours. (Apple and Google have yet to make it available again in their app stores, however.) According to Similarweb, by the end of the day, it hit a record 106.8 million active daily users, well above its pre-ban average. The legality of this maneuver is murky at best, and the Wall Street Journal has called it an illegal amnesty. Nevertheless, its safe to say that the narrative around TikTok has changed decisively. Trump now professes a warm spot in my heart for the platform, which he says helped him win over younger voters. And in a somewhat surprising and oddly timed chain of events, TikTok CEO Shou Zi Chew met with Trump last month at Mar-a-Lago, later received an invitation to his inauguration, and was seated front and center next to America’s Big Tech CEOs. Still, the details of whatever Trump has in mind beyond the 75-day extension are vague, and the app could die again; foreign policy hawks are complaining about placating China, and some TikTok creators may not want to be part of a platform too-associated with Trump. In what sounds like a negotiating feint, the president is now suggesting the United States government itself should own like half of TikTok, which he says could be worth hundreds of billions, but would have no value without its U.S. audience. (Again, the legality of such an arrangement is questionable.) Meanwhile, the TikTok faithful have been rewarded for their vocal support, the TikTok Shop sales barely missed a step, and hardly anybody seems worried about the app as an espionage toolleast of all Trump, who dismissed the importance of a geopolitical rival spying on young kids watching crazy videos. Rumors of potential buyers include MrBeast and Elon Musk. And within a day or two of its resurrection, TikTok had spawned a fresh health trend that involves pouring castor oil in your navel. Yup, back to normal.
Category:
E-Commerce
All news |
||||||||||||||||||
|
||||||||||||||||||